Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Past

by Michael

Kate passed away today about noon, surrounded by her children and family.

Details of arrangements to follow when we have them.

Please don't send flowers.

Your love and cards are appreciated.


22 comments:

alleycat said...

Michael - thank you for being so ever generous to keep her wide circle of friends in the loop. I cannot imagine what you are handling right now. My heart is so heavy for you and all those with you right now.
-Erin

Anonymous said...

Our heartfelt sympathies. Michael, your love for Kate shows in every message you've posted.

Anonymous said...

Michael, Naomi and Owen,

Kate's passing leaves a gaping hole in lives of those who were fortunate enough to know her. May peace be with you. Love, Haideh

algobay said...

This blog has been so generous with information and love. Thank you for your friendship and the hope you give the rest of us every day. We'll all miss Kate, but her love, that laugh won't ever truly be gone. Love, Dani.

Bob said...

Rest, Kate. You will be missed, horribly. Best wishes to Michael and the whole family.

Rebecca Rosenblum said...

Michael,

This blog has been a beautiful thing, a source of grace and genorosity, and a chance to know Kate in some way. And now that I do feel I know her a little, the loss is immeasurable.

Strength and love to you and your family,
Rebecca

Anonymous said...

Michael, Naomi, Owen and all your family.
I am holding you tight , what else to do or say?
I love you
Joan

sylvia said...

Michael,

Thanks for keeping us all informed through this painful time.

Kate touched an awful lot of people's lives with her cooking, love of the arts and her brains. She really stood up for what she believed in.

We had a great time together in our mid 20s, in Ottawa with the Jerry-gang, a time when life was more carefree.

I'll never forget her breaking out into her ginormous, distinctive laugh during a break in a concert which was being recorded in CBC's Glenn Gould studio. I remember thinking how listeners across Canada would know it was Kate in the audience.

Rest in peace, Kate. Your joy, your laugh and your life will carry on in our hearts.

XO Sylvia

Anonymous said...

Kate fought about the bravest fight that I can even fathom. She was so
stoic and fought with more heart and toughness than most people - she
was amazing to know always, but in this fight despite everything, she
really transcended any usual amount of resilience and reserve. She was
always so glass half full even after her recurrence, after a summer of
chemo, when they found a 10 cm metastasis- she ultimately said 'what
do I have to do' and got on with it. She suffered and she didn't complain- she wrote about
it- so beautifully and with such openness. Despite her suffering, she still had so much compassion and
empathy for other people around her also fighting cancer- for
prisoners and angry birds! She still made plans and somehow lived in
the present and "enjoyed every sandwich." I will miss her almost daily
presence in my life via facebook, which she used most effectively to
chat and vent and poll and send her quirky funny deep thoughts. I am
so sad for her, in losing you Michael and Owen and Naomi. I am so sad for
all of us.
I send my condolences to us all. And wish her well in leaving this life.
Tiina

Anonymous said...

Her laugh will always be in our hearts. Her strength, unconditional friendship and love will always inspire.

Michael, Owen and Naomi, we love you so very much.

Christina, Nicolaas and Miranda

yonge said...

So very sorry Michael and family. So grateful you took the time to think about us and this blog. Kate would have been proud.

K,H,S

lolz122 said...

i am so sorry uncle michael we are all here for you my dad owen naomi and lawrence Auntie cake was very strong and amazing threw this.
Neil
love you

lolz122 said...

i am so sorry uncle michael we are all here for you my dad owen naomi and lawrence Auntie cake was very strong and amazing threw this.
Neil
love you

Corin said...

A couple songs have become symbolic for me of Kate's ordeal:

Bon Iver, "Holocene"

Great Lake Swimmers, "The Great Exhale"

Love to you all...
Corin

Unknown said...

Kate – Katie to me. I met her when she was 17 in Ottawa. She was my little sister. She had a piece of my heart and a part of her will always be with me.

Steve Smith said...

Kate – Katie to me. I met her when she was 17 in Ottawa. She was my little sister. She had a piece of my heart and a part of her will always be with me.

Steve Smith said...

Kate – Katie to me. I met her when she was 17 in Ottawa. She was my little sister. She had a piece of my heart and a part of her will always be with me.

Anonymous said...

"an Oasis in time"

if you come to visit me
you will find me behind the realm of naught

behind naught there is a place
where
the veins of the air is full of dandelions, who bring
the happy tidings of flowers blossoming at the farthest bush

over the sands,
you can also see
the delicate footsteps of the horseman
who mounted the anemone hill of ascension at morning beyond the realm of naught,

the umbrella of desire has been spread
so that the breeze of thirst can run into the leave’s root,
the siren of the rain resounds
one is lonely here and in this loneliness the shade of an elm stretches to eternity

if you come to visit me,
come gently and slowly
lest the fragile china of my solitude cracks
if you come to visit me,
come gently and slowly
lest the fragile china of my solitude cracks


**so privileged to have met Kate once to admire her courageous fight before elevation to a different stage of conciseness

Carrie Snyder said...

Michael, I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. I also felt like I got to know Kate through this blog. She shared her truth and beauty. Blessings on your family.

Anonymous said...

Michael
I wish I could find some words to provide even a fragment of comfort for you at this time. Please know that the generous sharing of your and Kate's journey into places that no one should ever have to go have provided so many of us with comfort, guidance, a roadmap...

Yesterday I gave a friend (whose wife has just started down the breast cancer road)the link to your blog. I warned him that some parts could be painful but that I believed that what you and Kate have so generously shared with all of us would help him and his wife in their own personal journey. We all have our own journeys - but we are all, beyond measure, grateful to you both. You have gone before us clearing the path and have shared your wisdom, your fears and above all your strength in the face of adversity. THANK YOU.

Kate sure got lucky the day she hooked up with you. But then again - so did you. So happy that you both got to share the time that you did. Sometimes it isn't quantity but quality that matters - and you have always been a quality couple in my book.

I believe that we live on in the hearts and memories of those who love us. Kate is firmly in mine - I can't even imagine how many more people who are remembering her sense of humor, live of life, contagious laugh and wonderful cakes.

One can only hope to make such an impact on others that Kate (and you too) have made on mine.

I will carpe the diem

Thanks

Lynne

Sharon said...

Wishing all of Kate's extended families, friends and community our love today as you remember her in cake and photos and stories and laughter - her whirlwindness and passion carries on in Naomi and Owen. Her writing here is powerful and inspiring; we miss her deeply,
love Sharon & Joanne

Anonymous said...

My deepest sympathy to the families and friends of Kate O'Rouke. I only got the chance to work briefly with Kate and she was an amazing person; always trying to see the positive in everything in the workplace. Always bringing in new ideas. I attended her service yesterday and I was touched by the stories her friends and family spoke about. She was loved by many and she will be missed. IDS